Christina Sparkle

  1. Three month postpartum update

    When the babe learns to play with the things you made for them 💙💛💜 #babytoys #sewtiny #handmade #sewing #crafting

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    Just after my last postpartum update we had an eight week check (actually happened on week nine) which showed that Sacha had gone down a percentile line. When he was born he was on the 50th centile, but at 8/9 weeks he was on the 25th which the nurse and doctor told me not to worry about but to keep an eye on things in case he went down to the 9th centile.

    So I have been going to get him weighed at the local family centre every week since. The first week showed that he had lost a lot of weight from the week before which panicked me but after some investigation and a call to the doctor’s it turns out that the nurse had marked him incorrectly on the chart and in fact he had already gone below the 9th centile at the 8 week check.

    Luckily, I had requested some Infant Gaviscon due to his pukeyness and constant hiccups, I had also bought some formula for top up feeds just in case. These things combined have really helped him to put on weight and he is now above the 9th centile line again. I’m now going to check his weight once a month and hopefully we’ll see a more steady increase.

    Sacha has been losing his hair since last month – at first it was just at the sides and looked like a mohawk but now it is all across the back too, except for a tuft at the base of head like a little mullet. There’s still plenty on top too; he looks like a reverse Danny Devito!

    I have also been losing a lot of hair. I didn’t notice a difference in how much I lost during pregnancy or a difference in the thickness but it is now coming out in handfuls when I comb it in the shower.

    We have now finished the baby massage and sing & sign courses. I really enjoyed baby massage and am using the massage routines very regularly now. The signing classes were good but a bit of a shock – they are very much aimed at entertaining the baby which I don’t think Sacha was ready for when we first went. We’ve still been going to the free sessions at the family centre for breastfeeding support, weigh-ins and baby sensory too.

    Unfortunately I’ve had to stop using the Baby Feed app because it kept crashing so we’re back to Baby Connect but as I’ve been more focused on his sleeping this past month it was probably the right app to use anyway.

    As well as going out to my Stitch and Bitch group in the pub every other week my mum has also been coming down to look after the baby and give Andy and I some time alone. The first time Andy and I went out to the cinema and the next time we just went into town for some lunch at Baja. It felt so good to get some time together, I think we’ve both missed it a lot.

    Height/Weight: At the eight week check he was 59cm tall. Due to the weight issues I have been taking Sacha to be weighed at the family centre every week. Last week he was 5.05kg or 11lb 2oz.

    Routine: The routine over the last few weeks has looked like this…

    6.30-7.30: Sacha wakes up, Andy changes his nappy and then he feeds for 15-25 minutes. Morning is still the best time for his mood so I can usually brush my teeth, get dressed and put some make up on (if we are going somewhere) without much fuss.

    9.30-10: In the mornings we usually go out to a class or mum group. If at all possible I will walk with Sacha in the sling but some days if we’ve had a bad night we will take the pram instead to save my back.

    11-12: We get back and Sacha will usually be asleep so I try and make my lunch and do a bit of tidying before he wakes up.

    1-4: We chill out and watch TV. Sacha will feed, play and nap in a 2-3 hour cycle.

    5-5:30: Andy gets home from work and has cuddles. If we are giving Sacha a bath that night we’ll both head upstairs to help each other, this time includes some baby massage and reading a book to Sacha too. He really loves listening to Andy read to him, sometimes he can even make it through a second round.

    6-7: We sit in the kitchen while Andy makes dinner and listen to the radio. I try to put Sacha in the moses basket while we eat which usually works but sometimes we have to do dinner in shifts while one person holds the baby.

    8-10: I try to put Sacha down in his co-sleeper if he seems hungry or sleepy. It’s still early days to get him to sleep at this time without being on me but I’m hopeful that we’ll get there.

    10-11: Andy and I head up to bed, do one last nappy change and then try to get as much sleep as we can. Typically Sacha will sleep until 2-3am, wake for a feed then wake every 1-1.5 hours after that for more milk.

    Sleeping: We have been working over the last month to get Sacha to sleep independently. His favourite spot to nap is still on me however I have successfully been getting him to sleep in his cot or a Moses basket that I have borrowed from my friend Lizzie. This is still a work in progress and doesn’t work every time but we’ll continue to work on it.

    Night times are pretty strange at the moment. He has had a couple of nights where he slept for five hours in a row! The first time he did that I had to wake him up to feed because I felt so full of milk. However, other nights he has woken every hour which is exhausting. Baths and baby massage don’t seem to guarantee a good nights sleep unfortunately but I’m hoping this is the start of full nights of sleep.

    The main culprit that seems to wake him up is his reflux and pukeyness. He gets distressed from having a sore tummy and violently pukes which wakes him up. Then the best thing to calm him is to breastfeed but that just creates more for him to puke up again – a viscous cycle. Hopefully he will grow out of the reflux very soon, I have definitely noticed that he is less pukey at night but I can’t wait for it to end completely.

    We don’t need to change his nappy at night anymore however Sacha has been harder to get back to sleep. He used to just wake, feed and then fall straight back to sleep but he has been wide awake for hours some nights just chatting away or repeatedly pushing his dummy out and whinging for it to be put back in.

    Eating/Feeding: We are no longer exclusively breastfeeding due to the weight issues. I have introduced a bottle of formula at lunch times to help with his weight gain. We are also using Infant Gaviscon to stop him from being so pukey. As soon as we started using formula and the Gaviscon he seemed to fill out and appeared much more healthy.

    For the formula feeds we are using Hipp Organic 1 with the Gaviscon mixed in, not every day, but whenever is convenient – mostly just one bottle of 5oz but sometimes we give him two bottles. This has meant that Andy can feed the baby too which is so nice to see them bonding while Sacha feeds.

    My Raynaud’s is still there but I don’t feel any pain now, thank goodness! Feeds usually last 10 minutes; 25 minutes for super long feeds in the evening or first thing in the morning. He does still feed a lot though with 1-2 hours between feeds, perhaps because of a recent growth spurt?

    Latching on is much easier now, he is usually eager to feed and I no longer need to trick him into it with a dummy. He will still come on and off a lot though which is annoying but no where near as frustrating as it used to be. The feeding strikes seem to have stopped too.

    Size: Sacha fits well in 2-4 month clothes and some 3-6 months. He is still small on his bottom half so usually wears 1-2 months because 2-4 months are still big and 3-6 months are all huge. He has moved up to size 3 nappies – size 2 do still fit but size 3 mean less leaks.

    Milestones: Smiles and giggles come every day now, all the time. He is actively playing with his toys, especially the ones I have made for him like “Ozzy the Owl”, if you hold Ozzy by the ear Sacha will bat at the face to make the bell jingle. Sacha also loves his chain of links that I picked up from a jumble sale.

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  2. How to have a stylish baby boy

    One of my favourite things to do since having a baby is to browse Instagram for independent brands and stylish families. I’m generally not attracted to blue clothing for Sacha, and cartoon illustrations turn me off completely so it can be hard to find baby outfits that inspire. What I have found on instagram are some independent designers and shops that stock the most beautiful items. I’ve particularly found that boys style is a big deal right now, and I wasn’t expecting that – it is the absolute opposite in high street shops.

    Here are some of my favourite brands from Instagram for stylish clothing…

    #tinycottons #averyboldandcrazygardenstory #botanical #tartan 🌱🌱🌱 from @luksusbaby.dk

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    Perfect #flatlay featuring our wild chevron neck bandana 🔲 www.ryderl.com

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    Personalised teether and necklace

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    Goodnight everyone🌛 Picture credit: @ra.and.byron

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    Here are some of my favourite stylish families to follow…

    Slowly getting Austin’s shelf game up to scratch #shelfie #monochrome #nurserydecor

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  3. Free crochet cloud baby hat pattern

    Here’s a super cute hat pattern for a baby boy or a girl complete with cloud appliqués. I’ve included 3 sizes; newborn, 0-3 months and 3-6 months. Enjoy!

    You will need:


    HAT

    Magic ring

    Round 1: Ch 2 (counts as first HDC), 9 HDC into ring, sl st into second ch of turning chain to join – 10 HDC

    Round 2: Ch 2 (counts as first HDC), 2 HDC into each HDC around, sl st into second ch of turning chain to join – 20 HDC

    Round 3: Ch 2 (counts as first HDC), HDC into same st, HDC in next HDC, *2 HDC in next HDC, HDC in next HDC; rep from * around, sl st into second ch of turning chain to join – 30 HDC

    Round 4: Ch 2 (counts as first HDC), HDC into same st, HDC in next HDC, *2 HDC in next HDC, HDC in next 2 HDC; rep from * around, sl st into second ch of turning chain to join – 40 HDC [for newborn size stop here and jump to the round 7 instructions]

    Round 5: Ch 2 (counts as first HDC), HDC into same st, HDC in next HDC, *2 HDC in next HDC, HDC in next 3 HDC; rep from * around, sl st into second ch of turning chain to join – 50 HDC [for 0-3 months size stop here and jump to the round 7 instructions]

    Round 6: Ch 2 (counts as first HDC), HDC into same st, HDC in next HDC, *2 HDC in next HDC, HDC in next 4 HDC; rep from * around, sl st into second ch of turning chain to join – 60 HDC [this round is for 3-6 month size only]

    Round 7-16: Ch 2 (counts as first HDC), HDC in each HDC around, sl st into second ch of turning chain to join – 60 HDC. Fasten off and weave in ends. [for newborn size this will be rows 5-14, for 0-3 month size this will be rows 6-15]

    CLOUDS

    Ch 10

    Round 1: SC in the second chain from the hook, SC into each ch across, turn – 9 SC

    Round 2: Ch 1, sk first 2 SC, 5 DC into next SC, sk next SC, sl st into next SC, sk next SC, 5DC into next SC, sk next SC, sl st into corner SC, sk edge of SC, 5 DC into corner Ch, sk next Ch, sl st into next Ch, sk next Ch, 5 DC into next Ch, sk next Ch, sl st into next Ch, sk next Ch, 5 DC into last corner Ch, sl st into first DC to join. Fasten off with 20cm tail, appliqué onto the hat and weave in ends.

    To make the hat your own you can add other appliqués to compliment the clouds. I used these raindrops, you could try a rainbow or lightning bolt too.

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  4. First mother’s day

    Last Sunday was my first Mother’s Day as a mama. Seeing it from the other side I have a crazy amount of respect for anyone who has experienced the extremes of emotion and sleep deprivation that having a newborn has brought us. I guess nothing could have prepared us for the reality but I’m so glad to have made it this far.

    I printed photos of the baby and framed them as gifts for my mum and Andy’s mum. We gave them both cards from ourselves and Sacha too. It’s so cute to write cards from the baby for them.

    We spent the weekend visiting family but Andy still managed to make sure I got breakfast in bed. He also bought Sacha and I matching tshirts from Type on Top. My shirt says “Exhausted”, Sacha’s says “Exhausting” – so perfect for us right now!

    I’ve also ordered myself a very special gift from my lovely friend Kenda Kist Jewelry; hand stamped pendants with the latitude and longitude coordinates of the hospital where Sacha was born and the location of our wedding. I can’t wait to get them.

    Mucho love to all the mamas out there, I have no idea how you do it but I know you are doing a great job.

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  5. Two month postpartum update

    Respite ⚫️⚪️💛 #crochet #stitchandbitch #bedford #threecups

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    Two months?! Sounds such a short amount of time but also so long… we’ve made it so far!

    Mondays we still go to the breast feeding support group that is nearby – every week there seems to be a new issue! Tuesdays we stay at home and only go out if we have something planned with friends, I try and stay in bed in the morning and catch up on some sleep. Wednesdays we now go to a baby massage class, last week I learned how to massage his legs and each week we will build up the massage routine. Thursdays we’ve been to a local NCT coffee morning as well as Sing and Sign classes, the first one was last week and again, Sacha slept through most of it but I’m looking forward to getting more confident with signs so he can eventually communicate with us before he talks. Fridays we go to baby sensory in the morning at the local family centre – last week Sacha wasn’t the youngest baby there for once so hopefully I’ll start to see more mums with babies of a similar age now he is a little older.

    I’ve started to use my ring sling to carry Sacha whenever we go somewhere walking distance. He sleeps well in the sling and seems to like it a lot. I’ve joined a facebook group for baby wearing mamas – there are so many different types of sling it’s crazy! I am really happy with our ring sling though and feel like it’s ideal for newbies to babywearing. I’m thinking of getting a connecta or tula for the summer months too.

    I’ve stopped using the Baby Connect app now and exchanged it for the Baby Feed app. Baby Connect was great at first to track feeds, nappies and sleep with its fancy graphs however, I prefer Baby Feed now that we are regularly getting 3-4 hours between night feeds. Baby Feed gives me an estimate of when the next feed will be which really helps me to look for the signs at the right time and know when he is crying for sleep instead of food.

    This week I went out without the baby to my Stitch and Bitch group, just an hour between feeds but oh my goodness it felt so good to have a break. I’m hoping to keep that up and go back to every fortnight like I used to do so I can have a breather.

    Height/Weight: I don’t have any updates on his height or weight but next week we have an appointment at the doctor for his 6-8 week check up and vaccinations too. I also get a check up on my c-section healing at the same time.

    Routine: I’m feeling like we are actually getting into a predictable routine finally! Not a daily routine per se, but more an hour by hour routine. Here’s what it looks like:

    6.30-7.30: Sacha will wake at some point and Andy will change his nappy before he gets ready for work. I then feed the baby and we start the day. After his feed he will be in a good mood for 30-40 minutes which I use to get dressed and put make up on.

    We then have a 2-3 hour routine where Sacha will nap for 30-40 minutes, then feed for 15-25 minutes and then be awake and happy for 30-40 minutes. In between these times he can be pretty grumpy and refuse to eat or refuse to sleep but I’m hoping that will get better soon.

    5-5:30: Andy gets home from work and starts on dinner after a good cuddle. We give Sacha a bath 2-3 times a week which he still doesn’t like very much but they aren’t quite the trauma that they used to be.

    We then continue the 2-3 hour routine until I am falling asleep on the sofa about 10pm and we head up to bed.

    Sleeping: Since we’ve been in the 2-3 hour routine Sacha usually only naps on me; it can take 30-40 minutes of rocking and sushing to get him to sleep from the first signs of sleepiness (yawning). I’m going to be working on getting him to nap independently in his cot or co-sleeper over the next few weeks. The times when Sacha doesn’t nap on me are when we’re out in the sling walking about, or in the car or pram.

    In the evening Sacha will usually nap from around 8-9pm which I’m hoping will become part of his night time sleep eventually. He then wakes for a feed when we go to bed about 10-11pm and will sleep 2-4 hours between feeds so we get 2-3 feeds per night. This is getting better and better with longer between feeds and we don’t usually need to change his nappy in the night now.

    Eating/Feeding: We’re still exclusively breastfeeding which is a miracle! He still has a big appetite with feeds lasting between 15-30 minutes. My raynaud’s is no longer as painful as before, my nips still change colour after feeds but I don’t need painkillers any more and the pain doesn’t keep me up at night.

    He has been very fussy at the breast and even striking from feeds which is really frustrating. I called the La Leche League helpline last week who suggested that I might have a forceful letdown which makes him gassy and refuse to feed periodically. I’ve been using a dummy to start feeds and then quickly swapping in my breast in order to get him to latch on but that’s not going to be a long term solution so we need to find some way to sort things out soon.

    Today’s outfit of cuteness #flatlay #babyfashion #babystyle #babyootd @hm @funkygiraffebibs @vans @ikeauk

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    Size: Sacha mainly wears 1-2 months clothing at the moment. 0-3 month baby gros fit him well but the bottoms in that size are huge. 0-3 month sleepsuits are well fitting, almost getting too small but it’s all in his height, he is nowhere near filling 0-3 months in his waist. We are still wearing size 2 nappies. I have bought some size 3 just in case but they seem to be way too big.

    Milestones: We can now get smiles whenever he is in a good mood quite predictably. Giggles are becoming more frequent too. Sacha also interacts well with the toys on his baby gym and bouncer – he will deliberately look at them and bat at the toys which I think is earlier than expected.

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  6. My breastfeeding story

    I know a lot of people say that they’ve never been around breastfeeding women before, or that they don’t see people breastfeeding but I feel the opposite. I was breast fed as a baby and I remember going along to play groups and church groups where women were breast feeding all around. I guess this has all contributed to my decision to breastfeed, it has always felt like the right choice for us.

    The major thing that I was unaware of with breast feeding was how painful it really is. I really have no idea how we have survived as a species! I do wish that the antenatal classes and books I had read were a lot more honest about how tough the initial months of breastfeeding really is.

    We have tried formula feeding a few times; once I was in so much pain in the middle of the night we gave Sacha a Cow & Milk bottle that comes pre-steralised. He didn’t seem to like the taste but he did take it down eventually without crying and then slept for 6 hours which gave me the full rest that I really needed. The second time was a similar situation but he only slept for two hours, as much as a normal breast feed, and was really pukey afterwards which really stressed me out. The third time was this week when he refused to feed, I tried to give him the formula but he was not interested but was still crying for milk. Instead I expressed and gave him that in a bottle before he latched on and we fed as normal.

    The first breast feed was right after I had woken up from my caesarian section. He latched on straight away and it was the perfect way to bond with him after what had been a long and exhausting birth. From then on the midwives in the hospital and at home visits helped us to get the right latch. It can be tiring having every midwife trying to improve you in some way but I am now grateful for all the help.

    I had very sore nips at the beginning and decided to rest the side that was most sore and just use one breast for a couple of days, I was trying to avoid feeds too. This then caused the other side to get sore too and I had to rest that side for the next few days. Resting a side however meant that I was not producing enough hind (fatty) milk to fill Sacha up and he was feeding very frequently – a mistake I won’t ever make again!

    After two weeks of feeding my nips were healed and Sacha’s latch was very good, feeding for up to 45 minutes. In that time I had seen a breast feeding specialist at the hospital, as well as in my home who both said that the latch was good and my soreness would go away with time, I just needed to work on positioning to make sure we were both comfortable.

    I have read that the UK is the world’s worst at breastfeeding, I’m not sure why but I’ve always wanted to carry on, even when it has got really hard. Perhaps because the birth didn’t go to plan I feel a sense of duty to my baby?

    After the birth my milk came in at day 4 or 5. I had actually been expressing colostrum since week 38 of my pregnancy. Expressing during your pregnancy is one of the best ways to induce labour and although that method didn’t help me it did mean that by the time we went in to be induced I had a bottle of 10-15ml frozen colostrum. Andy was able to feed the colostrum to the baby while I still out with the help of a student midwife.

    A month into breast feeding I developed deep breast pain and have visited the doctor twice to find out if it was due to thrush. The first doctor just looked at my breasts and said there were no signs so I just kept taking pain killers. My health visitor then told me to go back to the doctor and ask for swab tests, these came back negative but in the mean time I have noticed that when I take a shower in the evening, which is usually 15-20 minutes after a feed that my nips are blue or white. This is a sign or Raynaud’s syndrome, a circulation problem. I have been taking showers every day for the pain and also using a hot wheat bag whenever it gets bad.

    I have now stopped the pain killers for breast feeding as the pain has become more manageable however we are now having new problems where Sacha is very fussy at latching coming on and off repeatedly. He even has refused to feed on a couple of occasions. This week I rang the La Leche helpline because I was so stressed out that he hadn’t fed for 4 hours (usually he feeds every 1-2 hours). The wonderful lady on the helpline told me to express and give it to Sacha in a bottle or syringe. I managed to express 10ml in 5 minutes and gave him the bottle, he then latched on straight after and fed for 45 minutes so he was obviously very hungry!

    When I called the helpline back to that the lady for her advice she told me to look up Forceful Letdown on Kelly Mom. The symptoms are:

    • Gag, choke, strangle, gulp, gasp, cough while nursing as though the milk is coming too fast – occasionally
    • Pull off the breast often while nursing – yes
    • Clamp down on the nipple at let-down to slow the flow of milk – YES
    • Make a clicking sound when nursing – Not sure
    • Spit up very often and/or tend to be very gassy – YES!
    • Periodically refuse to nurse – YES!!
    • Dislike comfort nursing in general – Not sure

    So it looks like we have a new challenge to deal with. It seems like a lot of women have both Raynaud’s and a forceful letdown but from what I’ve read so far they need the opposite remedies; Raynaud’s needs hot, forceful letdown needs cold.

    I have been attending a breast feeding support group every week which might seem overkill but we seem to have a new challenge develop every week and I have also been hoping to meet other mums but we’re usually the only family there which makes it tough!

    In terms of feeding in public we have fed in John Lewis cafe, another coffee shop in Cambridge and at Anglesey Abbey’s National Trust restaurant. I haven’t found any one giving disapproving looks or discouraging me in any way which is a relief after some things that appear in the press and on social media.

    When feeding in public I don’t use scarfs, muslins, tents or any other covers. I find that a tshirt over the top of a nursing vest is plenty to make me comfortable. Tshirt goes up and the vest goes down. I really don’t care about anyone else’s comfort, I focus on what I am comfortable with and that is all that matters to me.

    Now we are at seven weeks of breast feeding Sacha feeds for an average of 25 minutes at a time with 1-2 hours in between. That does seem quite a lot of feeds and for a long time compared to others I know so I am hoping they will continue to space out and shorten in length but we’ll see how it goes.

    I couldn’t have got this far with breast feeding if it wasn’t for these products: Lasinoh cream, Baby connect app, pillow (I don’t use a boppy or any other breast feeding pillows, just a normal one), Tommee Tippee electric pump and Panache maternity bras.

    At night we are still using a dummy; after he feeds he often makes grunty noises when I turn the light back out so popping a dummy helps to keep him quiet so we can both get back to sleep. By the time he is hungry again the dummy has dropped out so I don’t miss him waking up ready for the next feed.

    Feeding at night I don’t find too bad; some nights they will be every hour which is not fun but most nights there are 2-3 hours between feeds so we are getting a decent amount of sleep. The only challenge we have at the moment is dealing with the pulling off that is a sign of the forceful letdown.

    Night times are when I’m most glad to be breast feeding, I don’t have to go downstairs to prepare a bottle. We can just latch on, feed and go back to sleep which is normally done within half an hour. We are using a Chicco Next2Me co-sleeper to make things even easier.

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  7. Six week post partum update

    Winging it @selfishmother #wingingit #selfishmother #selfie #newmama

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    We’re now in full swing being at home on our own. I’ve been going to mums groups regularly and had a few visitors to keep me entertained too. Mondays we go to a breast feeding support group which is just a few streets away from our house however, we’ve been the only ones attending so there’s not much chance to make some friends. Tuesdays we stay at home, Wednesdays we’ve had visitors, Thursdays we’ve been along to a crafty group and Fridays to a baby sensory group.

    Sacha hasn’t been so good at going in his swing these last couple of weeks. He’s been quite clingy but apparently he’s been going through a growth spurt so it is to be expected that he will be grumpy during this time. With all the clinginess I’ve found it frustrating that I can’t make any progress on my crochet – especially when Andy is making a lot of progress on his hobbies.

    Sacha has had a lot of reflux which can be really frustrating. He seems to feed for 25 minutes then puke it all up which makes him hungry again. It’s really scary when he pukes through his nose too – it can be quite projectile sometimes! It doesn’t seem to bother him at all though and I’ve ordered a natural reflux remedy to try this week.

    I’ve been to the doctors again for my breast pain and they have taken swabs to test for thrush and other infections. Hopefully I’ll hear back soon to find out what is going on and I can finally get some treatment.

    I have been showering every evening to help with the breast pain, however I’ve really noticed that I have quite bad BO at the moment. My normal deodorant just doesn’t seem to cut it anymore, not even with a spray top up. I’m not sure what to use instead but I have read that this often happens when you are breastfeeding.

    Height/Weight: Last week the health visitor weighed Sacha and he was 9lb 1oz which puts him in the 50th percentile which I’m really happy with. That means all this breast feeding trouble has been worth it and I can be sure he’s getting what he needs from me.

    Routine: Here’s the routine we’ve found in the last couple of weeks…

    7.30/8am: Wake up, nappy change and feed for 45 mins. Sacha seems to be a morning person, he likes to lie under his baby gym or look out the window while I eat and get dressed.

    9am: If we are going out to a baby group he will usually be awake on the walk there in his pram, then he’ll have 10-15 mins of being awake before he wants to feed and then nap in the pram on the way home. If it’s a Tuesday/Wednesday he sits in his bouncer while I blog and use the computer.

    11.30am/12pm: Once we get back home he’s usually still asleep so I leave him in his pram while I make myself something to eat and try to get as much washing up/laundry/crochet done as I can.

    1pm: Sacha wakes up for another nappy change and feed. He is still pretty grumpy in the afternoons. We usually just catch up on TV or watch a film while he feeds and screams his way through the afternoon.

    4pm: If I can get him back into a good mood I’ll go on the computer, or play with him under his baby gym and do some tummy time. I usually try to feed him at 4.30pm so he’s full for when Andy gets home.

    5pm/5.30pm: Andy Candy gets home from work and will keep Sacha entertained while I go into the shower – this is has been the only time I have where Sacha isn’t attached to me so I try to make the most of it.

    6pm: We feed for 25 mins while Andy makes dinner and as Andy and I are now back to eating at the table we’ll put Sacha in his pram in the kitchen while we are eating. We can then push back and forth if he gets a little grumpy.

    7.30pm: Andy has now taken over all baths and I do the lotion and massage after bath. Sacha still screams during a bath, especially when we wash his hair but as soon as he’s wrapped in a towel he loves it.

    8pm: I have now stopped staying upstairs with Sacha all evening because I was getting down about not having any adult contact. We now dress him in a sleepsuit after the bath and take him back downstairs and watch TV. I keep feeding him as often as he wants (which isn’t the cluster feeding that it once was).

    10pm: We come upstairs to bed and Sacha is usually asleep at this point so I can get changed, take off my make up and do my usual evening routine.

    11pm/11.30pm: Sacha will wake for his final evening feed. This one is usually quite short 7-15mins but he will go straight to sleep afterwards so I make sure he is swaddled before we start to feed. He will now sleep for 3-4 hours.

    3am/3.30am and 5am/5.30am: He wakes for a feed for 15 minutes and is back to sleep again for 1-2 hours. If there was a nappy leak I change him before we start to feed but usually he doesn’t need it. The nappies at night are just wet now and not dirty anymore.

    Sleeping: Sacha is sleeping well and we are getting 6-8 hours a night with two feeds which is awesome. Hopefully they will go to one or no feeds in the night soon!

    We haven’t had to use any formula again but I am still using a dummy. It seems to help him get back to sleep and saves me a lot of pain.

    I find it much easier to wake up for night feeds now but in turn that has made it difficult for me to get back to sleep. The breast pain keeps me awake and I also am wide awake from the feed so it takes me a long time to settle again.

    Eating/Feeding: Feeds are now 15-25 mins, hopefully we get down to 15 mins regularly soon. Occasionally he coughs and splutters so I guess that means my let down is good and strong.

    I’ve been using cross cradle a lot more rather than rugby hold. However, rugby hold results in much less wind and reflux because he can be almost upright by the end.

    The most frustrating part of feeding right now is how fussy he is; latching on and coming off repeatedly then crying in between. He seems to gulp down a lot of air when he comes on and off which probably gives him a lot of gas – hence the reflux. I hope that stops soon!

    Size: We’ve now retired the newborn/1 month clothing and are in mostly H&M 1-2 month clothes. 0-3 months is still a little big – especially for bottoms.

    We’ve moved on to Size 2 nappies which seem to cover a lot more of his back and tummy. We’re still having a few leaks but maybe that’s normal?

    Milestones: We’re getting smiles quite regularly now. His neck is getting stronger and stronger through tummy time and he seems to be actively looking at his baby gym – even reaching towards the toys and hitting them.

    Andy has almost got Sacha to giggle. He’s been giggling occasionally during his naps and he really seems to want to giggle sometimes but can’t quite work out how to do it.

    Happy v day peeps! #valentines #babystyle @mothercareuk @vans @ikeauk

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  8. New mama survival guide

    survival-guide

    In the absence of a weekly update this week I thought I’d list all the things that have got me through the last 5 weeks of being a brand new mama.

    Staying at home with a newborn is, I imagine, very similar to being in an underground bunker with one hand tied behind your back. These products will work in either situation.

    1. Tablet – My iPad mini has got me through the many feedings in the dead of night. Perfectly sized to be balanced on my knees while I breast feed and control with one hand while the other hand holds the baby. Here are the apps that have been getting me through:

    Facebook: If you can get a friend in Australia to message you, or find some other new mamas then this will keep you entertained for a good portion of the night. Messaging with one hand though is a skill I have yet to acquire.

    Instagram: Searching and following expensive baby brands is my new hobby, my current favourites are @ryderl_style, @tinycottons and @foxesfelts – following their brand reps too is futile!

    YouTube: Grab your earphones and subscribe to your favourite vloggers. Perfect for whiling away those cluster feeding hours, my favourites are the Saccone Jolys, Travis Clark and (most disturbingly) Glam Planner.

    Candy Crush: I’m probably out of date with the latest game that everyone is playing but any game that can keep you occupied while feeding is going to be a winner. Try not to spend too much on in-app purchases though (guilty!).

    2. Headphones – Grab some comfy earphones for watching YouTube in the middle of the night and for listening to Spotify when you’re out pushing the pram in the day time.

    I typically just listen to one ear when breastfeeding  (the opposite side to the one I am feeding on) so the cord doesn’t get in the way or strangle the baby.

    3. Tumbler – Ideally you want a plastic tumbler with a lid and straw. Perfect for grabbing one handed without spilling and make sure it holds plenty so you don’t have to top up every five seconds.

    I actually got my tumbler for my labour after my friend Lizzie recommended it to me. It has been super useful with the newborn and Andy now has his own too.

    4. Lansinoh – Don’t scrimp on cheaper alternatives, this is a must have for the first 2-3 weeks of breastfeeding when you have cracks, blisters and scabs. I don’t need it so much now my nips have adjusted but I still apply it a couple of times a day.

    5. Netflix – This is mainly for the first week at home, if your baby is like ours and stays up all through the night then you might try staying up in shifts like we did. I’m not sure it was the best way to handle things but that was the only way we could get through it. I watched most of Red Dwarf, Gavin and Stacey and anything else that is easy to follow when a baby is screaming through it.

    6.  Books – You might want to download these onto your tablet rather than grab a paper copy because turning pages one handed is not an easy skill. However, if your feeds are long these will help to get you through and aren’t so mind-numbing as playing Candy Crush for hours on end.

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  9. Lullaby – Tim Minchin

    What more can I do to put a stop to
    This mind-numbing noise you are making?
    Where is the line between patting and hitting?
    When is rocking “rocking” and when is it “shaking”?

    😉

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  10. One month post partum update

    Success is finding a moment to crochet #stylecraft #newparents #crochet #babyblanket

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    This week was my first full work with Andy back at work leaving me on my own with Sacha at home. I’ve been to some breastfeeding support groups and to get him weighed at the family centre as well as having a few family and friend visits to keep me sane.

    He has been better at being in his swing or bouncer this week so I can put him down and tidy up or do some crochet for up to two hours at a time which is bliss.

    My incision has been better this week, it is still a little sore but I haven’t increased my pain killers; I’ve just been taking extra showers and that seems to help to stop it from getting prickly or too stinky.

    I’m still suffering with deep breast pain. My support group leader sent me to the drop in center with suspected thrush but the GP that saw me said it definitely wasn’t. I just had to leave with no answer and nothing to help the pain. I’m not sure if the pain is easing or I’m just getting used to it but it is easier to cope with now, hopefully in the next two weeks it will be gone completely.

    At night the pain can be really bad, I can’t sleep on the side I just fed on because it’s just too painful. I also find it especially difficult if Sacha wants to keep feeding after he’s had both sides, the pain is just too much to carry on.

    This week I have been especially leaky, it used to be just a small amount when I was feeding from the opposite side however, now it’s more like puddles! I may have to start sleeping in my bra or on a towel, neither if which sounds very appealing.

    Height/Weight: Although I went up to the family centre to get him weighed I forgot to pick up the piece of paper with the weight on so I don’t know what it was. I think it was 8lb 4oz, or 8lb 6oz but I can’t remember. He’ll get weighed at his 6 week check up so I’ll just wait until then to find out.

    Routine: Here’s the routine that we seem to have so far…

    7.30/8am: Wake up, nappy change and feed for 45 mins-1 hour. He then is in a good mood and awake enough to sit under his gym or on the bed and look out the window while I get dressed and grab some breakfast.

    9am: We usually take a walk in the buggy to run errands or to a mum and baby group where he can feed for another 25 mins. If we had a bad night I try to use this time to sleep some more instead of going out.

    11.30am/12pm: Back home for another nappy change and feed for 25-45 mins. After this he usually naps and I eat some lunch, do laundry and keep myself sane with some crochet.

    1pm: If we’re having visitors they come about this time and Sacha will continue to nap in his swing and during cuddles.

    2.30pm/3pm: Sacha wakes up for another nappy change and feed. This is when he is most likely to be groggy and it can be hard to get him to feed; he will often scream for an extended period before I can get him to latch on properly. I will catch up on last night’s TV during this time; War & Peace, Jericho and Call the Midwife are currently in my list to watch.

    4pm: More awake time, I will put him under the baby gym or in the swing for a short period and we do tummy time if he is still in a good mood. This is a good time for me to get on the computer and do a little work if I can.

    5pm/5.30pm: Andy Candy comes home from work and has cuddles. I will try and get a hot shower to try and ease the deep breast pain and clean my incision.

    6pm: We feed for 25-45 mins while Andy makes dinner in the hope that we can put him in the swing or nap while we eat.

    7.30pm: Andy and I take it in turns to bath Sacha. We are doing proper baths now with a bath seat. We wash him using the Naif baby wash and then use the matching body lotion to moisturise afterwards.

    8pm: We do a fresh nappy and feed for at least 25-45mins, he will either drop off after the first feed which lets me have some time to relax with Andy until 10/11pm, or he will continue to cluster feed all evening until 12pm-1am. Typically, the worse the evenings are the better the nights are; he won’t wake up much if he’s fed a lot in the evening however that can be difficult to see at the time when I am sore and desperate to sleep.

    2am/3am and 5am/5.30am: He wakes for a feed for 25-45 minutes. There will be a nappy changes in there too which can be tough because they wake him up so it’s a difficult balance to try to keep him sleepy.

    Sleeping: I had one tough night again where I was very sore with deep breast pain and I resorted to a formula feed however, it didn’t have effect we were looking for. He didn’t sleep for the long period like he did last time, in fact he just stayed awake for ages until I breast fed again. Then he just slept for 3 hours and was really pukey the next day. I’m really reluctant to do that again, I don’t think formula top ups are the right answer for us.

    One thing I have introduced this week (which I may come to regret!) is a dummy. Rather than letting him constantly feed from me until I am sore and crying I let him have both sides for a good period of time (up to two hours), then if he is still trying to feed I’m giving him a dummy (night time only). This has worked for the last two nights; he gets the sucking and soothing that he wants and I get the rest that I need before the next feed.

    Hopefully using a dummy like this means I don’t get too sore and need to resort to formula again. I do plan to take the dummy away again at about 8 weeks once he discovers his thumbs.

    Eating/Feeding: Sacha’s feeds are now typically 25 minutes long, last week they were 45 minutes and his first week they were an hour. He will then swap to the other side for 5-15 mins if he’s really hungry.

    I had been exclusively using rugby hold until this week when I have introduced cross cradle at night time which seems to be more comfortable for night feeds. It means I don’t have to have so many cushions around me and it seems easier to feed this way when I am sleepy. However, I am finding it easier to stay awake during night feeds, especially because they don’t seem to go on for so long any more.

    He has had a cold the past couple of days which makes his breathing difficult during feeds – he sounds like a little piggy! Hopefully that will clear up soon, it reminds me of Tim Minchin’s impression of a sleeping baby.

    He has also been much more pukey this week. I’m not sure if this is from overeating or not being burped enough. This gives me an excuse to put him in cute dribble bibs though.

    Size: He’s still in the newborn/1 month clothing but I really hope he starts to bust out of them in the next week. I did try him in some 1-2 month clothing though and it was huge! I am getting bored of the 10 baby gros we have now (especially because he can go through 3 in a day!) so hopefully we can start putting him in outfits soon. Nappies are still size 1, we’ve run out of the Aldi nappies now and are back to the Naty ones which aren’t as leaky so I guess he’s grown into them.

    Milestones: I can put Sacha in his swing, bouncer or under the baby gym for longer periods now, he really likes looking out the window. Andy has been getting him to smile more and more, I finally managed to catch a smile on camera. He has managed to roll over a couple of times in his co-sleeper but maybe that’s just fluke? During tummy time he’s been holding his head up for a couple of seconds this week, lots of progress there.

    Rockstar 🎸⭐️ #newborn #stars #guitar #rockstar #airguitar #onsie #mothercare #dribblebib #bandana

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    Unless something super exciting happens in the next week the next update will be the six week update.

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